So here we are, in our late 20s, seeing most of our friends on social media getting married and having kids. We start to think about settling down, sometimes heartbroken from past relationships, and we decide we are ready to jump into the dating world.
Dating in your 20s, when you like to date older guys, can get complicated and sometimes frustrating as you usually encounter the following three types of guys:
The first type of man we find is the married guy who is unhappy with their marriage. He will try to convince you that he is such a great guy and that his wife is just an awful monster. He will swear on his kids that they are separated, but for some reason he has to be in the same house for now, while he figures the divorce out.
He will promise you every day that he will get a divorce, but two years down the road he hasn’t gotten one or even filed for it. You will come to realize he will never get one, leave him, and he will move on to the next and do the same to her as he did to you.
The second type of man we find is the divorced guy with kids. Bless his heart, he is usually a good guy that wants something serious, but he has so much baggage it is hard to date him.
Dating this type of guy is tough because you have to consider the many ifs and be sure that you’re willing to take the risks. He might never want to get married again -especially if he was burnt by his ex-, if he has a vasectomy -and even if he doesn’t- he might not want to have any other kids. This guy will most of the time not change his mind about these issues, so always believe the first thing he says to you about the before mentioned topics.
Now you’re in a predicament: this is a great guy that fills you emotionally, but won’t be able to fulfill many of your other wants in your life plan.
The last guy we meet is the forever single, with ALL the red flags. Never been married, no kids, nothing.
I always wanted to believe that there is a reason why some men are older and never been married, without necessarily thinking the worst. Unfortunately, when I’ve dated these type of guys, the red flags are everywhere and you realize why he is single and that probably won’t change.
This guy usually has trust issues, commitment issues, all the issues, you name it! He will destroy you, he will promise you everything but will give you nothing. He loves dating, but loves his alone time much more. This is the type of guy that loves having “situationships”.
Have you encountered any of these types of guys? What do you think are the biggest challenges of dating in your late 20s? Www.wittyflamingo.com
